My daughter has just turned the incredible age of 14 (going on 30!).  On September 8th she’ll start yet another chapter in her life – High School.  To say I’m afraid of what’s to come is an understatement, given what we’ve already been through!  (Nothing serious lol).  It truly amazes me how vicious girls can be, and this kind of thing has been happening off and on since my daughter started grade 7.  EEEEK!!

Both of us have just survived another round of viciousness between K and her former best-friend-forever.  K was walking down the street with her boyfriend, cousin, another friend and her 6 year old brother when from across the road, shouts were heard.  “K is a Slut”, “K is a Skank” etc.  The shouters are kids that she’ll be going to high school with this year, and with them (though apparently not doing any of the yelling) was K’s former BFF.

Needless to say, my daughter arrived home in tears :(

Seriously, it’s not as if we live in a mass metropolis where families don’t know each other – unless you call population 1,400 a mass metropolis, but still, we know a large percentage of people in this community, and those we don’t know personally, we know of.  Unfortunately K didn’t want us (her parents) to deal with this situation our way – yes, wringing necks did come to mind, but discussing it with parents would have been our first choice.

My hubby did go slightly against K’s wishes and talked to one older boy who the other kids involved hang around with.  We’ve had issues with this older boy before (nothing to do with our daughter) .. but he does now have a healthy respect for my husband lol.

One lesson K learned was never to lend out any of her “stuff”.  Unfortunately K and her F-BFF had swapped a lot of clothing and due to the fact that they were no longer on speaking terms, each was peeved about the other still having her stuff.  K even went to Footlocker yesterday to purchase a brand new pair of $35.00 sandals to replace her friends pair that had been damaged over the summer.  And before you ask, if we had realized they weren’t her shoes she was wearing, she wouldn’t have been wearing them!  Hindsight is a wonderful thing, which I believe K is now figuring out ;)

When I was in high school, I always got along better with the guys.  Sure I had some girlfriends but there was so much garbage that happened in the girl scene, it was just easier to hang out with the boys and not get into all of that.  But that was a good many years ago (though I won’t share exactly how many!!).  Times have changed and it seems to me that girls can be even more vindictive now than they ever were before.

K also has a boyfriend you see.  “A” is 16 years old.  He’s a darn good kid too.  Many parents today are dreading the thoughts of high school and teenage romance, and I totally get that.  I was one of those parents too you see.  But where K is more mature for her age than many other 14 year old girls around here, A is definitely the opposite.  He’s a sweetheart, and his Mom and I are becoming friends.  But I have to wonder if this relationship, and jealousy on some girls parts are part of the problem that K is going through right now.  Here’s a pic of the kids in June – getting ready to leave for K’s grade 8 graduation:

K & A - June 09

Not only did A go out and buy a tie to match her dress, but he also came equipped with 4 long stem red roses and her wrist corsage!   I mean hey.. when my hubby picked me up for our first date, I had to buy him a cup of coffee because he was broke LOL (perhaps I should have realized a sign of things to come haha!).

Like all Moms, I truly wish I could protect my kids from the evil forces out there .. but alas, I know there are many lessons that they’ll have to learn on their own, and much heartbreak that no parent can protect them from.

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